As anyone who reads this knows, our lives changed forever just 3 months ago. My parents were involved in a serious car accident that claimed the life of my mom and left my dad and the driver of the other vehicle fighting for theirs. My dad spent a week in the ICU in Kearney and 5 weeks in Madonna Rehabilitation Hospital for a traumatic brain injury. The driver of the other vehicle is still at Madonna and is paralyzed from the chest down. His wife and 2 young daughters (4 and 21 mo.) have been living in the housing provided by Madonna for families of patients who are there on a long term basis. They are hopeful that they will be able to come home soon. Please keep them in your prayers. Dad's recovery since coming home has been as difficult process. In addition to having to grieve the loss of his wife, he came home with restrictions on everything that he can do...no driving, no power tools, 24-hr supervision, no using the stove or going up and down stairs unsupervised, no alcohol, etc. He has been ok with some of that (he has had no desire to drink, which is the one thing I was worried he would struggle with the most), but has really fought the supervision. Those of us who have been there with him since coming home have struggled to let him be home alone because we know that if he should fall and hit his head, he could risk re-injuring his brain, and may never fully recover. However, he has promised us, and is keeping his promise, that if he could be allowed to stay home alone, he will stay in the house and do his exercises, watch TV, sleep or little chores around the house (all of which are allowed). He has been doing well with his therapy and has even been released by the physical therapist. He will still see the occupational therapist and speech therapist for a while, though. He is scheduled to return to Madonna August 10 and 11 to be evaluated by the brain injury team. We are all hopeful that he will pass the driving eval and that they will see some significant improvement all around. I'm sure that even if he passes his driving eval, there will be some restrictions as to what, when or how long he can drive.
The rest of us have been taking one day at a time. I am just a few weeks away from having baby number 3. I have been feeling pretty good and the heat has not really bothered me that much. Elliot and I went to New Orleans in the first part of June, so I guess spending a week in the humidity down there conditioned me for the rest of the summer and it hasn't been too bad. This past Friday at the fair was probably the worst because there was absolutely no wind and you could cut the humidity with a knife. Other than our trip to New Orleans, we have not done much exciting this summer. We have put a LOT of miles on our van with all the trips made to Kearney and Lincoln in the last 3 months, but I wouldn't call that exciting. We are adding on to our house to make room for our growing family. We are enclosing the front steps and extending the length of the garage to meet that wall. Above the garage will be our new master suite complete with a walk-in closet and a bathroom. The bathroom will take some extra work, but it will be so nice to finally have a second bathroom! Where the front steps are now, will be the stairway to the upstairs and double as a mud room. I'm looking forward to that as much as a second bathroom. If you have ever been to our house, you know that once you walk in our front door, you are in our living room and there is only a small area of linoleum just in front of the door. It will be nice to move the mess of dirty shoes out of the living room. Landen has had a lot of fun "helping" Elliot and Larry prepare for the new foundation which was poured last week.
This last week was our county fair. I worked at the open class building for entry day again...it was sure weird without my mom there. Thankfully is wasn't really hot that day and there was a nice breeze coming through the building. I didn't even break a sweat! I also entered some photos, canned food, fresh produce, some jewelry and flowers. I didn't enter as much this year as I normally enter, but I still made $65 in premium money! That night was family night on the midway and we could ride the rides all night for just $25 for a family (including grandparents)! The kids had so much fun and Adellyn screamed every time we had to take her off of a ride. We stayed home Thursday night and went to the second night of the rodeo on Friday. They started the rodeo with a beautiful tribute to my mom. Adam rode a horse, leading a horse with an empty saddle, Mom's chinks draped across and her boots turned backward in the stirrups while a fair board member and friend read about her contributions to the fair, rodeo and community. The flag also flew at half mast throughout the fair in her honor. Landen got to ride a sheep during the rodeo that night! He was pretty excited about it and got a dollar when he was done. Chris Blickenstaff (a family friend who I grew up with) held on to Landen as the sheep started running...that is what they do for younger kids and the first timers! Hopefully next time he will try to hold on by himself.
Landen is growing so much this summer. He has shot right out of his 3T clothes! He can still wear a few things, but he is mostly in 4T now. He is also about to outgrow his size 9 shoes. He talks all the time, now. Some days I can't get him to stop talking long enough to eat...I usually have to leave the kitchen so he can't talk to me. I do enjoy listening to him talk when he is playing with toys. His imagination is really growing. We considered sending him to preschool this fall, but we decided that he is not mature enough for school (that and the cut off is 3 by June 1...he missed it by 10 days). He is not very good about listening and following directions, so that is something I have been trying to work on. Besides that, we were afraid that having a new baby and going to preschool within weeks of each other would be too much change for him. We'll send him next year and if they say he is ready for Kindergarten at 5, we'll send him, otherwise we may wait to send him to Kindergarten when he is 6. Landen is completely potty trained, now. He has not had a night time accident in over a month. His daytime accidents are only because he won't stop playing long enough to go to the bathroom. I often catch him doing a potty dance and have to tell him to go to the bathroom. He will make up some excuse to not go, like, "it's dark in there" or "it's scary in there." My response is always, "turn the light on." At least he is getting better about putting is pants back on when he is done!
Adellyn is also talking all the time, now! She is constantly surprising me with words that I didn't know she knew. Yesterday, I asked Elliot if he wanted pancakes for lunch and Adellyn was sitting on my lap and she looked at me and said, "YEAH!" So, I got up and started making pancakes. Adellyn comes running to the kitchen, climbs into her booster seat saying, "pancake, pancake!" She knows way more words than Landen did at that age, but Landen also back tracked after she was born and he was just starting to really talk. Of course, the 2 words I hear her say the most are "no" and "baby." She LOVES babies...real and toy. I'm a little worried that when this baby comes home, she will try to "help" a little too much. My biggest fear is that I will leave the room for a little bit and come back to find Adellyn carrying the baby. I never worried about that with Landen...he didn't seem to have much interest in babies and still doesn't. When I ask Adellyn where the baby is, she lifts my shirt and points to my belly, then she lifts her shirt and points to her belly and says, "baby." I imagine she will probably start "feeding" her babies like me. She is a little copy cat and has picked up some bad habits from Landen. She used to eat really good, but now she pushes her food away like she has seen Landen do so many times. At least they both eat hot dogs, now. Until the beginning of this summer, neither of them would touch a hot dog, but we kept trying and now they love them...not the healthiest thing we could feed them, but it's easy! Adellyn has shown interest in potty training. In fact, the night before my mom died, I was just talking to her about wanting to start potty training because Adellyn was showing interest then. I was planning on starting that Monday, but I guess God had other plans. I decided that now that I am this close to having the baby, that my efforts in potty training would be lost because I most likely won't have the time to stick with it and she is also likely to back track. We can start working on it about the time she turns 2...maybe she could be mostly trained by Christmas!
Well, I think I have come to a good stopping point. I probably won't post again until after the baby is born! I hope everyone is having a good summer...enjoy what's left of it.